He has been very respectful to me and for that I am appreciative. He does seem nice, but I think that comes from a general respect of his elders. I don’t know how to instill work ethic in either of them, but I do feel as a job for both of them would be the turning point in terms of taking care of those things which need to be taken care of. I am timeline driven so we’ve discussed how they can get back on their feet, January 1. I’m also pushing for her to re-enroll in school for at least the fall semester, she can very well get one more semester in prior to the birth. He has not even a high school diploma so I’m working with him to attain his GED.
I’m working with both of them -she tells him everything I say in terms of stressing that this is where the rubber meets the road, the time for them to step up because a little one is depending on them to be her everything. Mighty big shoes to fill, but fill them they must. I’m also nowhere clouded and I have the firm belief that a lot of relationships just don’t last anymore. I implored my daughter to think about those couples she might know who have been married for long periods of time. Then think of those who she now knows to be single parents and the tremendous responsibility that single parent must bear. Just being realistic that a relationship started at 19/21 stands a very small shot of lasting 18 years. I also told her to look at the relationship her father and I have concerning her. We’ve given to her the best we could in terms of roots and presenting a united front in spite of our divorce and I would hope that she maintains a wonderful relationship with the boy for the sake of her baby.