LOL!

I’m good, told you it was a girl a LOOOOONG time ago.
I’m a bit relieved she is home with you. I think she has wanted to be with you and not him for awhile, but her 19 year old pride hasn’t let her before now—gee wonder where she got her stubbornness.
I’m also relieved you are giving her the opportunity of choices. Things will be far better if she has a clear set of rules, but you still give her the opportunity to spread her wings. It’s a good thing. Hang in there. Now remember, no free ride, she CAN push a vacuum sweeper both there at home and at the office.