As you already know this last week was a wee bit stressful, as in terrifying

Thankfully the medications are working well and dh’s pain is down to a manageable dull ache. He used two vacation days this week for going to the doctor on Monday, and then when he was hurting too much to even get dressed in business attire on Thursday.
As there always is with such situations we had added expenses above the normal tight budget. In “the good old days” We would have handed over a credit card for the co-pay at the doctor’s office and pharmacy. Instead I paid cash out (bad credit payday loans guaranteed approval) of the grocery money for it. Choosing to save our medical sinking fund cash for when the rest of the bills arrive.
On Friday my computer completely locked up and wouldn’t revive until dh worked on it for a very long time. I’ll post what was wrong with it in another post—it has to do with a program many of us have on our machines and may not even know it.
The repair lasted through Saturday and once he figured out what was actually wrong with it we discussed the fact that all my home row keys no longer have the letters and symbols on them, because I’ve worn them off. Not a problem for me because I am a touch typist. However, it does affect Mr. Hunt and peck when he is working on my computer.
Then there is the fact that my battery on the computer will no longer hold a charge at all. Again not a problem to me. I just plug it in.
Add to it the fact the h and o only work when they are in the mood to (try typing this line without an h or o.) That is a minor inconvenience. Add all that together and dh said he thought it was time we started a sinking fund to replace my laptop. In “the good old days” we would have taken the bonus coupon we got that day in the mail from reward zone and used it per its terms and conditions with the BB cc to purchase both of us a new laptop (his died over a year ago and he’s been using my old one—until it suffered permanent death, then ds’ old one they have rebuilt twice and now ds’ hand me down—slowly dying tablet.) Doing so on a same as cash “deal.” Of course we would have gone and done other shopping and of course eaten out
When I am stressed I want to eat out, that is one of my coping mechanisms. Some people shop, some people stress eat. Me I pay to eat. LOL. In “the good old days” we would have eaten out for lunch and dinner on Monday at a sit down restaurant and put it on a charge card. Instead we ate lunch at home and ds, who knows me so well, fed us a cheap fast food meal with cash for dinner. We didn’t even consider a meal out the rest of the week.
Instead we discussed the blog I had written (link below) on how dangerous same as cash deals and charge cards are. Then on Sunday dh started adding programs to the Frankenstein desktop he and ds built for office use only. I’ll start doing all my blog posts from there until after we are free of our consumer debt. (counting the days down). Then we will start a sinking fund for computer replacement. Creating “good new days,.”
We are continuing to eat out of food storage (4 weeks now) instead of grocery shopping or eating out. In fact today I’m trying a new to us recipe that we saw on “Pioneer Woman” this weekend. –in my last cottage cheese purchase is still good. Only where she used all fresh ingredients I’ll be using home canned (or freeze dried) ground beef mixed with a little tvp, dehydrated sour cream, dehydrated tomatoes, dried homemade egg noodles, with the rest of the ingredients from my pitiful garden. We’ll see how it goes.
One of the mystery shopping companies I work for has gone over to paying their shoppers with a pre-paid credit card. I am NOT amused. The pages of legal gibberish are numerous. I will be working less and less for them, actually probably not at all, as a result. Basically the only way you can get your money is to use the card for exactly the amount on it at certain locations, because if you leave your money on it for too long, there is a fee. If you spend it and you accidentally even attempt to use it to pay for partial payment on say groceries and the system tries to run it through for the full amount it will do it for the full amount and then charge you a fee for being over line and on and on.
I had to agree to be paid this way to get the money for the most recent shop I did. No agreement. No payment. So I agreed to accept the card and now will probably not work for them again—off course there is an account cancellation fee if I don’t do it a certain way too. So my plan is to take the stupid card to Wal-Mart and purchase a gift card for the exact amount on the pre-paid card and use that to buy fuel at a discount. Then simply not shop for that company again. I’ll cancel the pre-paid card the no fee way. I hate that they have gone to this method of payment, it was my favorite company to work for.
Of course I will let the company know why I am quitting. Maybe they will re-think this decision if enough of us protest. I know the one company that insisted I get an ein changed their rules on that when enough of us “quit”. While their page still says you must have one to work for them, those of us who have been working a long time for them don’t have to.
On Friday I did a “new car shop” for $32.
I only got to put $5 extra on BB this last week, but it’s $5 that will save much more than that it the long run considering BB compounds their interest daily. It will “snow” big flakes on this account Friday. One of the many ways we are creating the “good new days”.
We released McNugget, this year’s only gosling, into the main flock this weekend and so far he is staying with elders. Poor little guy, because of the rough start he had he is angel winged on one side (for you non bird folks that means his wing sticks out from his body instead of folding up normally). Otherwise he is healthy. He also thinks he rules the world.
Ds and I got a good laugh out of Jolie, our Aussie Collie mix dog, and McNugget on Saturday. It was “bedtime” and Jolie was doing her job herding the birds to the night pen when McNugget decided he not only wasn’t going, but that he was going to charge and challenge Jolie. The look on the dog’s face was priceless. She looked at the pint sized tyrant and then looked at me as if to say “Did you see that brat? What should I do?”
I told her to take care of it and put him up. So she gave him first her little bark that says “Move it!” to the older birds, which they did. McNugget challenged her again. She did her sharper “NOW” bark, and he challenged her again. The entire flock froze. No one challenges Jolie, she is alpa, and they all know it. She will put her cold nose on their hind quarters and push a bad bird if necessary. The last noise Jo made was a throaty “I said NOW!” growl.
At that point, Mama Serenity, Daddy Frodo and all five older siblings rushed to the naughty gosling and literally drug him by his new feathers toward the night pen. They’ve seen an angry Jolie go after predators and they knew he had tried her patience to the max. I knew the gosling was safe—In the 15 years we’ve had birds Jolie has never hurt a single one. She does take her job seriously though. You will obey her when she says go to bed, or you will be rolled like a soccer ball all the way there. Jolie doesn’t get her dinner until everyone is put up and Jolie likes her dinner.
We heard the elders of the flock scolding the youngster for quite awhile after they were in the pen. Sunday he was a much better behaved little bird. He definitely headed straight for the pen the minute ds said “Bedtime.” To the flock—did I mention geese are smart and train their young?

I have restarted working on my website

It has been up and running but I need to add more products to it. I added three products last evening—all trivets. I will add some more today.

I have pics of my products saved on my computer and I accidentally got fumble fingers the other day and many of my items got renamed to the same stock number. Arrrggghhh. I had to go back and change each one individually to the correct number yesterday.

I also ordered more business cards today. I am expecting a proof by email in the next 24 hours.

I need to work on getting some of my pictures of my products mounted on index cards with descriptions.

Do any of you know places online a crafter/home business person can go to promote home businesses like mine where I have a website that takes orders? I already have a facebook page.

So here are my goals for this week:
1) Get all products listed on website
2) Get pictures mounted and descriptions written
3) Promote business online and face to face

Would love to visit someday!

I don’t know if you remember—but we used to live on 10 acres—so seeing all your acreage and meeting you in person would be a lovely experience—-no matter where I slept…
Although, right now–it is slaying Sallie Mae time and unfortunately making her go away is taking me much longer than it took to go to college…ugh.
Sallie Mae is the only thing keeping me from yelling that debt free scream.
And ever since we moved out of our mortgaged 10 acres into our paid for cash fixer upper—I have been seriously wanting to be done with debt totally!
Plus—I am in line to be done somewhere around the time you and Eldred get done……
Here’s waiting for our someday soon (Cinderella reference…lol…..I like Disney as much as you.)

LOL :)

how do you feel about sleeping in an office or an unairconditioned camper? (currently 91 degrees here). Office doesn’t have a bed in it, but maybe we could blow up the air bed. Despite the size of this ouse it’s only 3 bedrooms, but I have housed 30 people for 3 weeks once due to a family emergency. We used the roll-a-way bed, day bed and a whole lot of air beds.

I hope and trust your family had a decently quiet evening

With no further forms of medical excitement? He didn’t have any more episodes and you didn’t thrash him too badly? That was sure scary yesterday. Tell him not to pull any more stunts like that. If he wants to create excitement, tell him to go find a bunch of buried money in the yard. Then we can have all sorts of fun talking about how best to use it. But no more of this medical stuff. We’re just going to have to put our collective foot down on this one.

This year is the 35 year mark of me graduating high school

Before I typed that out I didn’t feel too old at all! LOL ….. NOW, I feel pretty old. I have never been invited to any high school reunions. No surprise. I tried helping with the 10 year and it was just going to be a typical byob party. Nothing else was planned for the weekend … no family stuff, no picnic, etc. I am not in that type of party so I dropped out. Never looked back and never heard from them again. :-s

Blessings,

Cindy, who thinks high school reunions are way overrated and is now heading to update my own little part the cyber universe at …..

I’m definitely not a F.Scot

But I did want to say I was sorry to read about McNugget yesterday. That’s always such a bummer. Can’t claim we’ve had bobcats here, but we’ve had other predators and/or disappearances like that. Never a good day.

Had to chuckle though at your feeling old at the 45th reunion. I’m “celebrating” my 30th this year, and so far I’ve not heard a peep about any formal events. Which is partly ok and partly disappointing. Don’t really have time or enthusiasm for it right now anyway. But yea, been feeling more mortal than usual the last few days and getting an email like that probably would not have helped. Here’s to being around a good while longer, regardless of whatever year we all graduated.

I’m sorry of the worry that you are going through

It’s so hard to see our kids take the long, bumpy road towards adulthood. I’m so thankful that your dd isn’t on any substances – that’s great. Glad she’s with you right now. I’m hoping and praying that once this precious baby comes, that she will open her eyes and realize that she needs to make sure that her baby has all that she needs etc. It does sound like she may be getting on the right track.

I knew you wouldn’t withhold visitation

But you never know what others think. Hopefully, they won’t see her as a novelty and do right by her. time will tell.

My late sister’s ex treated the kids from his first and second marriage as afterthoughts. When she passed, he was “forced” to take care of the 2 younger kids and withheld all visitation for us. He stopped all contact with the older kids. 12 years later, he has established a bond with the older kids and forced them to make a choice–us or him. Sad for everyone.

LOL!

I’m good, told you it was a girl a LOOOOONG time ago.
I’m a bit relieved she is home with you. I think she has wanted to be with you and not him for awhile, but her 19 year old pride hasn’t let her before now—gee wonder where she got her stubbornness.
I’m also relieved you are giving her the opportunity of choices. Things will be far better if she has a clear set of rules, but you still give her the opportunity to spread her wings. It’s a good thing. Hang in there. Now remember, no free ride, she CAN push a vacuum sweeper both there at home and at the office.

Volunteer work can look great on

a resume if it’s in the field she’s interested in. It’s a great way to show she can be reliable and to develop/show a good work ethic. Another thing she could do with her doctor”s okay is exercise (maybe a prenatal class). This will also make her feel better, emotionally and physically.

WOW!

You’ve had a lot on your plate lately! First of all, I’m very relieved to hear she’s not on drugs. How and why she took departure from her good senses is apparently still up in the air, but at least it wasn’t chemically induced. Second, I can sure understand you wanting her to move in with you, and frankly I think the fact that Father is still walking around without broken limbs is a testament to your patience and restraint. I think my folks would have killed him dead, had they found me in that situation. I don’t have much in the way of advice for you other than to say that you’re acting out of love for her and concern for her child, and that’s probably the best motivation you can have right now. I’ll keep you and your little growing family in my prayers…

Glad that everything is ok with the baby and your daughter is home with you

I do think that is the best place right now. I’m glad that you set up some ground rules about the boyfriend, she may not agree, but I think they do need to see if it a healthy relationship.

Is the car in her name only? If it isn’t and you or your ex are on it, I would insist that he not drive it. Not sure of his driving record–that can be easily obtained through public record. If his record isn’t good, the insurance co could refuse to pay if he gets into an accident.

Could she do parenting classes, CPR, college online or even volunteer work? Then she wouldn’t be sitting around doing nothing and she would be learning or helping out.

Interesting about his family. Perhaps they think you will withhold all visitation with the family if they don’t show support–I’ve seen this happen many times.

To his credit..

He has been very respectful to me and for that I am appreciative. He does seem nice, but I think that comes from a general respect of his elders. I don’t know how to instill work ethic in either of them, but I do feel as a job for both of them would be the turning point in terms of taking care of those things which need to be taken care of. I am timeline driven so we’ve discussed how they can get back on their feet, January 1. I’m also pushing for her to re-enroll in school for at least the fall semester, she can very well get one more semester in prior to the birth. He has not even a high school diploma so I’m working with him to attain his GED.

I’m working with both of them -she tells him everything I say in terms of stressing that this is where the rubber meets the road, the time for them to step up because a little one is depending on them to be her everything. Mighty big shoes to fill, but fill them they must. I’m also nowhere clouded and I have the firm belief that a lot of relationships just don’t last anymore. I implored my daughter to think about those couples she might know who have been married for long periods of time. Then think of those who she now knows to be single parents and the tremendous responsibility that single parent must bear. Just being realistic that a relationship started at 19/21 stands a very small shot of lasting 18 years. I also told her to look at the relationship her father and I have concerning her. We’ve given to her the best we could in terms of roots and presenting a united front in spite of our divorce and I would hope that she maintains a wonderful relationship with the boy for the sake of her baby.